The picture shows my ‘choices’ bag. I returned from a retreat in October and I wanted to find a more creative way to stay ‘in the gap.’ This is the space between something happening and responding to it. Most of the time we react without thinking about it. I have been meditating and practising mindfulness for over 10 years now and one of the downsides is that I have become very aware of my less skilful habits! I am learning to be kinder to myself and so rather than beat myself up, replace them with better ones. It is much harder to stay with our experience when we are are feeling a negative emotion such as anger, sadness or boredom so we find may something to distract us – usually something addictive like social media, alcohol, cigarettes etc.
In my choices bag - I was going to use a shoe box but then I found a good quality designer paper bag - are coloured index cards. On the yellow different meditations, the pink different forms of exercise, the blue different writing activities and the green different inspiring ideas of something to read. I keep it by my bed and I pick out one of each colour as soon as I wake up. I am not one for a day to day routine so this works for me because I love stationery. Also because I don’t know what I am going to choose it makes each day’s activities different. It can be hard to stay motivated especially when you are busy. Another reason it works is that naturally I have only put things I enjoy on the cards. There would be no point me putting going to the gym on a pink card because I know that would never happen so I have written yoga, going for a walk or bike ride or swim.
Sometimes they don’t all happen so I remember to be kind to myself as life gets in the way. However in less than three weeks I have established a daily writing habit, something I was struggling to do before. If you struggle to get motivated and are looking for creative solutions please feel free to contact us to see how we can help you.