It's a sad fact that most people live their lives in a reactive state. This is especially true in schools where you have several hundred disparate personalities thrown together. Things are starting to change, slowly, for the better with more schools embracing mindfulness and coaching.
However it starts at the top. I know from my experience of working in over 40 different educational establishments that it is very difficult not to react unskilfully when those around you are in this state. School leaders need to take ownership of their own emotional triggers and learn to respond appropriately. How many times I have seen members of SLT shouting at kids in the corridor, for example, I can't remember.
By practising meditation and mindfulness we become more aware of our mental states and emotions. We start to notice patterns and it is usually the same situations that will trigger a strong reaction. We then have a choice how to respond. How would it be when 'that' child from year 9 is sent to your office yet again if you responded with kindness and compassion instead of reading them the riot act? What is it about their behaviour that is making you feel this way? Can you identify something from your past?
It is not easy and takes practice. Everyone is doing their best with the tools they have been given and their current circumstances. If you are feeling stuck and frustrated and would like a non-judgemental listening ear then please contact us today to find out how we can help you and your school.